You still have chance to become a bisexual.

Many bisexuals are coming out while you are hesitating whether to come out or not. It doesn’t means many bisexuals were coming out in public. They just live a real bisexual life. There are many bisexuals live around you. If you don’t open your windows, you will never find them.

At first, try to accept yourself. Because we cannot support the person whom don’t trust himself. Yes, many people don’t accept bisexual, gay, trans… But life belong to ourselves, and we can only live once. Does others’ words worth you give up to looking for real self? Many people choose to live in others eyes. There are many tags in their life. A model never eat ice-cream because they must keep thin. A gay couldn’t hand in hand with his partner on street because someone will feel them strange.

Do you have same experience? You have a beautiful girlfriend but you love another boy more. Marry with the girl is a better choice to you. Forget the boy isn’t a difficult thing. You love girl, but your family and friends all think that you should have a boyfriend. Can you live with the person for whole lifetime whom you don’t love? Yes, you can. You are not the only one who choose this kind of life.

In most cases, we choose to compromise to the fact. It’s always been proved a right way. Why so many people like to watch the movies like Titanic and Melena? One side is their life is terrible, living like a prostitute. It seems that anyone could tread on your dignity. But you still remember who you are. What you will do? The other side is they want live like “Rose”, but have no courage to break the routine. If there is a choice, one is to be yourself now and another one is to be the one you want to be; which one is your choice?

We have prayed too much that the world could be changed one day. But it never changed. The world still don’t accept bisexual and gay. The world couldn’t be changed obviously, how about change ourselves at this moment? We don’t need to against anyone. Just try to accept ourselves. “I’m gay, I’m bisexual, I’m lesbian, I’m straight” for someday we can introduce ourselves like this. From now on, be a happy bisexual, gay, lesbian. Looking for true love without any tags. You are not Robinson, you have many friends around you. I and all members in bi3sum.com are waiting for you.  

How do you deal with the sexual fantasy to same sex people?

Don’t think that only you thought about have sex with same sex people in the world. There is a research study about “Which kind of sexual fantasy is rare?” shows that 81.7% female and 82.3 male fantasize they have sex in public places. 66.3% female and 83.4 male fantasize have sex with stranger. And more than half people fantasize have sex with same sex people.

It seems there is myriad kind of answer. Why?

The kind of sexual fantasy is vary with each individual. To a great extent it depend on the life experience. So whether what kinds of sexual fantasy you have, don’t worry, they are normal. Sexual fantasy is not a trouble. The real trouble is the pressure while you try to against your sexual fantasy.

People is shame to talk about their sexual fantasy. Some people would have the emotions of hate and criticize to their sexual fantasy. E.g. someone always fantasize have sex with same sex people. Or someone fantasize have a threesome dating. Some female fantasize have sex with many male at same time. But we should know sexual fantasy is spontaneous and inevasible. The negative induced emotion come out while you try to reverse it.

Some people think that excessive sexual fantasy will cause sexual anxiety. Even it may lead sexual crime. In fact, excessive sexual fantasy could only show the psychological problem. It’s not the reason that cause all problems. Sexual fantasy is not reality. It’s a problem to mix fantasy with reality.

What benefits that sexual fantasy could bring us?

1. Sexual fantasy is a substitute while sexual behavior is not enough. Though sexual fantasies are not realistic. But the pleasure that we generate from sexual fantasies are real.

2. Sexual fantasy can satisfy your desire for control. There is always imperfection in reality. But in the world of your brain, you can have perfect imagination.

3. The best aphrodisiac is your sexual fantasy.

4. Research study shows that sexual fantasy can relieve pain and burn calories.

Try to accept your sexual fantasy but not resist it. Treat it as a dream no matter you are gay/lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual. Don’t have any mental stress. Even you could talk about your sexual fantasy to your best friends or your partner. But don’t mention whom you date with.

The truth you don’t know about gay marriage.

Does gay marriage different with normal marriage?
The same to straight, most gay are eager to a stable and enduring serious relationship. And they did. In fact, most of LGBT have a loyal relationship, many couples keep the relationship more than 10 years.

Are gay couple suitable to be parents?
A large number of facts have made direct comparisons of straight parents and gay parents, the results show consistently that gay and straight are equally fit and capable of becoming parents. And their children are equally mentally healthy and adapted to life.

Why the marriage is so important to gay couple?
In a loyal relationship, marriage could bring the couple support from economic and social, which can lead to more substantial health benefits. Married men and women usually experience more physical and mental health than men and women who only live together. In addition, living in a legitimate group for gay couple would be more likely to have a loyalty than living in a group that rejects marriage. It is unfounded to refuse gay’s marriage rights. And it would have a negative impact on them and their families and friends.