You still have chance to become a bisexual.

Many bisexuals are coming out while you are hesitating whether to come out or not. It doesn’t means many bisexuals were coming out in public. They just live a real bisexual life. There are many bisexuals live around you. If you don’t open your windows, you will never find them.

At first, try to accept yourself. Because we cannot support the person whom don’t trust himself. Yes, many people don’t accept bisexual, gay, trans… But life belong to ourselves, and we can only live once. Does others’ words worth you give up to looking for real self? Many people choose to live in others eyes. There are many tags in their life. A model never eat ice-cream because they must keep thin. A gay couldn’t hand in hand with his partner on street because someone will feel them strange.

Do you have same experience? You have a beautiful girlfriend but you love another boy more. Marry with the girl is a better choice to you. Forget the boy isn’t a difficult thing. You love girl, but your family and friends all think that you should have a boyfriend. Can you live with the person for whole lifetime whom you don’t love? Yes, you can. You are not the only one who choose this kind of life.

In most cases, we choose to compromise to the fact. It’s always been proved a right way. Why so many people like to watch the movies like Titanic and Melena? One side is their life is terrible, living like a prostitute. It seems that anyone could tread on your dignity. But you still remember who you are. What you will do? The other side is they want live like “Rose”, but have no courage to break the routine. If there is a choice, one is to be yourself now and another one is to be the one you want to be; which one is your choice?

We have prayed too much that the world could be changed one day. But it never changed. The world still don’t accept bisexual and gay. The world couldn’t be changed obviously, how about change ourselves at this moment? We don’t need to against anyone. Just try to accept ourselves. “I’m gay, I’m bisexual, I’m lesbian, I’m straight” for someday we can introduce ourselves like this. From now on, be a happy bisexual, gay, lesbian. Looking for true love without any tags. You are not Robinson, you have many friends around you. I and all members in bi3sum.com are waiting for you.  

I hope there is no “homosexual” any more in the world one day.

I think the article will trigger some disputes. But if you are willing to discuss the topic with a curious heart, maybe we could have some new discover to ourselves. Please don’t comment before you have finished reading.

The most painful thing in the world is ashamed that don’t know “Who I am?”
There is a place in everyone’s heart that will not expose to others easily. We are shamed of our appearance. We are shamed of our poverty. We are shamed of our character. We are shamed of our broken marriage… The most painful thing in the world is ashamed that don’t know “Who I am?” The most part of shame come from that we are different to the expectation of the society and the people around us. But if the difference is something we are born with or cannot change, what’s your feeling?

I have many homosexual friends. They are all very excellent in their character and morals. But they have no courage to tell the world “who I am”, just because they have different sexual orientation with most people. They are afraid of other’s hostility. They are afraid of their families couldn’t understand them. They are afraid of that their love couldn’t be admitted by the society. They are afraid of been deprived the right to be parents. Who can help them?

What is the difference between homosexual and heterosexual? I even think that the reason why we attack the people with different sexual orientation is that we want to shift our shame (I don’t want to face my shame so I must let you feel shame!)

I think the common part of human nature is far greater than our difference. We all know the greatest light of human nature is our kindness and respect for others. But why haven’t we done better?

I want to ask the so-called “straight-man and straight-woman”, can we be braver? To be brave enough to acknowledge your fears, to be brave enough to admit that you don’t really understand them, to be brave enough to confess your ignorance. To be brave enough to be yourself and allow them to be themselves.

So ordinary courage, do you dare to have it? I hope one day there will be no more “gay, bisexual, lesbian, transgender” in the world, because we no longer judge anyone by sexual orientation. We can speak to anyone: “I like men or I like women”

The world owes gay and bisexual a marriage?

In normal people’s mind. Straight person should have straight partner. Gay person should have gay partner. Does bisexual must have gay & bi partner?

Do not know when to start? More and more gays & bisexuals come out around us. At beginning many people become uncomfortable. The first thing flash in the brain is rejecting them when some gays & bisexuals come out. Because we would differentiate the groups different with ours. This is the instinct of us.

The reason why human could stand at the top of the biologic chain is that we have strong resilience. Every kind of people have special value if they survival from ancient time to the present. Many human civilizations die out in the history. (e.g. Maya and Atlantis)

Let’s count that what we still have. We have white, black and yellow race. Do those enough? No, not enough, we also have LGBTS people. If human could be differentiate as complexion, why do not we differentiate human as sexual orientation. Because I think every race have LGBTS people. What make us could survival for now? Not the environmental pollution, not the war, not the racial discrimination, it is love. The love of straight, the love of gay, the love of bisexual, the love of transgender. What makes the love always around us? It is marriage.

White people could married to black and yellow people, vice-versa. There is no strange to their marriage. So, why so many people mind gay’s marriage, bisexual’s marriage? It looks like only straight’s marriage is admitted. Even many gays & bisexuals are scared of come out. Do you understand how merciless it is? Try to image that 95% people are bisexual and gay, if you come out as straight you will lose job. But if you don’t come out, you have a great probability married with a same sex people. Is this the life you want? I don’t think so.

No only straight need have a legal marriage, but also gay and bisexual need legal marriage. Many countries have passed the law of gay marriage. But not all countries. The limit to people’s mind is more harmful than enslave their body. Obviously, there has no slave in the world now. But does everyone get the freedom?

The truth you don’t know about gay marriage.

Does gay marriage different with normal marriage?
The same to straight, most gay are eager to a stable and enduring serious relationship. And they did. In fact, most of LGBT have a loyal relationship, many couples keep the relationship more than 10 years.

Are gay couple suitable to be parents?
A large number of facts have made direct comparisons of straight parents and gay parents, the results show consistently that gay and straight are equally fit and capable of becoming parents. And their children are equally mentally healthy and adapted to life.

Why the marriage is so important to gay couple?
In a loyal relationship, marriage could bring the couple support from economic and social, which can lead to more substantial health benefits. Married men and women usually experience more physical and mental health than men and women who only live together. In addition, living in a legitimate group for gay couple would be more likely to have a loyalty than living in a group that rejects marriage. It is unfounded to refuse gay’s marriage rights. And it would have a negative impact on them and their families and friends.